The Reasons I Decided to Live​ at Home whilst at University.

Reasons I decided to live at home

Hello Lovelies

If you didn’t know already I decided to remain at home whilst studying at Univerisity. This was largely down to my mental health which means I have almost had the complete opposite experience of University life to that of my peers.  I’m not saying that’s a bad thing at all and I am still happy to have stuck by my decision. As I’m going into the second year I was given the opportunity to move out and move into a flat with my Uni friends after much deliberation I decided to stay once again in my family home.

Moving out for me is a HUGE step one I truly don’t think i’m ready to take unless in the right circumstances. I understand that moving out for the first time anyone would be nervous but mixing that with crippling anxiety wasn’t settling well with me at all. As someone whos anxiety mostly started revolving around school going to a new place with people I didn’t know terrified me. What if something happened? I wasn’t able to get that thought out of my head. It would circulate round and round probably 100 times a day. At least if I was living at home at the end of the day I would still have my home comforts to go back to and if Uni life didn’t work out for me everything would be resolved so much easier and probably quicker too.

The thought of having my own room and being able to add my own accessories designing it exactly how I want really excites me and is probably the only thing I regret by not choosing to live at University as well as a little bit of extra freedom I don’t get at home. Often I sit and imagine exactly how my University room would look if I were to have one… the complete opposite to the tiny room I share with my sister at home without even the space for a desk. Of course, other benefits of moving out would include being able to see your university friends, taking part in socials and living close to the University itself however these didn’t outweigh the costs of living, the fact I’d have to uproot my job and either get a transfer or find a new job completely as well as being away from my family.

“Sometimes others don’t understand your journey. They don’t need to it’s not for them” – Joubert Botha

Was anyone else affected by their mental health when deciding whether or not to move out to university or not? I would be interested to know!


13 thoughts on “The Reasons I Decided to Live​ at Home whilst at University.

  1. I was in halls last year (for my first year) so it’s interesting hearing about an insight of living at home! So glad you put your mental health first x

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  2. Great post! I had decided to go to college a few hundred miles away from home. Looking back, I have mixed emotions. Mostly, I wish I would have been able to save money on lodging—my university charged an insane amount of money per month for housing, and it just continued when I moved into an apartment. But I was also able to enjoy, like you mentioned, privacy, space, and freedom. Honestly, everyone is so different, and you’ll know when you are ready. Until then, enjoy your time at home. I admire you for putting your mental health first!

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  3. This is really interesting to read Jess! I’m an Open Uni student so I also study from home. I sometimes feel like I’m missing out on the whole uni experience but it definitely has its positives too, like it’s cheaper and you are surrounded by home comforts. It’s great you have put your mental health first, all the best for your studies and thank you for sharing ❤ xx

    Bexa | http://www.hellobexa.com

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    1. I also looked at the open university and it does definitely have many positives. I would be so worried I couldn’t keep myself motivated though. Would be so interested to hear about your whole experience as an open university student if you were ever to share it.

      Thank you so much for reading x

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  4. I dropped out of university after two months but for the type I was there, I lived at home. I found myself missing the social aspect, while my friends went into town or to their dorms, I had to get the bus back home.

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    1. I can definitely relate to this! Creating friendships is definitely harder as travelling is costly and takes time. It’s not like you can walk down the hall and see your friends. I’m really hoping to spend more time at uni this year rather than heading straight back home after my lectures so I don’t miss out on the social side of it as much. Thank you for reading x

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  5. I so wish I had made this decision when I started uni 3 years ago. If given a chance to choose again I’d definitely stay home. But I now however sure enjoy my space, although it is very depressing at times.

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  6. Loved this post! So interesting watching your different uni experience! however if you ever want to escape you’re always welcome at mine (would say to party but it would deffo be watching films) x

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